Steps:
- Take deep breaths. Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth, and extend your diaphragm as you do so. Although this may be painful if you've been crying for prolonged periods of time, the purpose is to relax. Continue even if your breathing is shaky.
- Once your breathing is fairly normal, try to find where the tension is in your body. Tense up the muscles in this area, hold for the count of five, and relax. Breathe and make a conscious effort to these and other tense areas, such as your shoulders and stomach.
- Lie down in a comfortable position in your bed. Turn off the overhead lights, and turn on a soft nightlight or other small lamp.
- Turn on some quiet music. Lose yourself in it. Turn this on quietly in the background. Talk to yourself in your head. Say stuff like (Everything is going to be ok) or ( It's over)
- Realize that life has its ups and downs. Crying isn't a bad thing and that crying isn't a bad thing to do, but that after a while, crying can actually hurt your body, so it's important to try to relax.
- Comfort yourself with the thought that eventually, all this will be a memory, and it won't be as painful for you to think of, so try not to think about it.
- Don't be afraid to cry with a friend or family member. They have probably gone through what you have just experienced.
- When you are crying you should just look on the bright side of things. If you cannot see the bright side to things, just lie down and go to sleep. You will feel so much better afterward.
- Take deep deep breaths.
- Think of happy things, just don't think of what made you upset.
- Last, if you're still crying or very upset at dusk then go for a walk with a friend and talk about something that will make you laugh and remember to breathe.
- Remember to be in a happy place and think about others things that make you happy.
- Eat or drink something. This will occupy yourself from crying
- Remember that things will get better, it may seem rough now but things will always get better.
Tips:
- To stop yourself from crying in public, try raising your eyebrows as high as they will go, as if you are surprised. It is very difficult for tears to come out this way. Yawning, or chewing ice, might also help.
- Let yourself cry. The purpose of this is to relax after you've cried enough, and know this is just hurting you.
- Realize that it may take a while to relax, but don't worry too much.
- If you're still crying (as in, tears are still leaking out of your eyes) but you aren't sobbing (your body isn't wracked by heaving sobs, you don't have shaky breathing, and can talk without stuttering too much) then you're all right and do not need to relax any further.
- Try to go to sleep. Everything will look a little brighter in the morning.
- Crying can be good for you. Scientist have suggested that crying when you're upset rids the body of excess hormones (this is why they have a different make up to "fake" tears), making you feel better.
- If trying to relax doesn't stop you crying, go cuddle with your mom, sister, or dog. Just hold them close to you. Feeling the heartbeat of another living thing is soothing. If nothing living is around you, grab a stuffed animal.
- Do something routine, for example using the computer or watching TV.
- Whatever you do, do not go back and think about the thoughts of what happened. You'll just start crying again if the subject that made you cry was thought-wise.
- Have fun with your friends, play a game, and just forget about what happened.
Warnings:
- Watch out for prolonged, heaving sobs. They will hurt your body, and you may have a stomach ache for a few days after. You may also feel sick to your stomach. All this is characteristic of stress.
- Remember that strangers don't know what you're going through, so strange looks will be present. Ignore them.
- Be careful on who you tell your problems to. They can always tell someone else
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